Arvind was born in a small lazy town called Zaheerabad. It had all that a town needs to have. Born in a middle class home, he could not have all that he wants. From schooldays itself, his parents told him, the purpose of his life is to become an engineer. They narrated the days of drought and hunger they faced, before they made it in life. What we have today is the result of back breaking work. They want him to have better life. They concluded that the only way to be happy in life is to study hard, find a well paying profession, build a home and have some money deposited in bank. If Arvind does that, it would be make them happy. So Arvind made it his goal, to keep his parents happy.
He worked hard at his education. Stayed up in the nights and finished all assignments, wrote his exams well, or so he thought. The problem with Arvind is that he is an average student. No matter how much he tried to keep up with his fellow students, the results were always average. His parents really discontented, they blamed his for not doing enough. So, he worked harder, but nothing about his subjects gets into his head. His heart was somewhere.
He found that he a knack for painting things around him. Every time he sees a painting, his heart longs to feel it, his mind fills with vivid pictures, sceneries, which he would like to paint. His fingers would twitch at the thought of art. He tried to explain his feelings to his parents. They thought it was silly, they were not too happy about it. Which fool would make painting as his profession, they asked him. He needs to concentrate on studies instead of day dreaming, they warned him.
So, he snubbed his passion, and tried to put his mind on getting through engineering. He needed to clear pre university exam and write an entrance for engineering. He got through the former but flunked the later. His parents felt all their dreams and hopes are now crushed, they blamed it on his waywardness and his foolish desire to become a painter.
He knew he was not achieving his goal of keeping them happy. But what can he do? He is just not into math’s or physics. He declared its time for him to pursue his dream. All he did till this point of his life is to please his parents, find their approval, and experience their love as they accept him just as he is. He did everything he can to gain it but never actually achieving it.
Arvind moved to Hyderabad, a city 100 kms away. He thought in the city he can find a foothold for his dreams. Finding admission in an arts college was easy, but existing in a city for three years was difficult. So he did odd jobs to keep himself going while pursuing his dream. The sad looks of his parents, filled with resentment and disgust, still haunt him. He failed them, now he needs to make it up to them. By becoming a renowned artist, earning wealth, he thought he can.
The world of art is small, in that the community of art patrons is minuscule. These patrons are high profilers; they are not accessible for normal people like him. If you need to be recognized as an artist, you need to be artist par excellence or at least a man of influence. Great artists need patience to be recognized and accepted. That is one thing he can’t afford, time. He needs to prove his parents wrong, so after the graduation he moved from place to place and person to person to get his paintings recognized. None had time for him, or thought he is just an amateur and needs time for growth.
For five years, he painted, stalked galleries, few were accepted, most rejected. He wondered, whether his parents were right. May be this was not what he was made to do, may be something else. There are no cheerleaders around; parents practically gave up on him. Pain of being a loser is haunting him. For a few days he juggled with the idea of going back home. With what face he can go back? Empty handed, sense of shame? Even if he returns, will his parents ever accept him?
Finally he decided, he can’t survive in the city any more. He headed home. His parents did allow him, but not before lecturing him on, he should have listened to them. His father found a job for him at a municipal office, said that’s all he can do for him. He better settle down. Arvind accepted it; at least his parents took him back. He will work hard and earn money and make his parents happy.
He soon realized though his parents allowed him back home; they always carried a sense of reminder with them, about how he failed them. Arvind wonders everyday, when will he make his parents happy? When will they accept him just as he and show some love? Will he ever find a meaning for his life?
In some lives, questions are never answered, until they find love.
“One's real life is often the life that one does not lead.” - Oscar Wilde (1854 - 1900), L'Envoi, 1882
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